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Kenyaleaks – Contact your MP today

In the last few months I’ve been given sensitive information worthy of wikileaks headlines – how to kill your MP in 60 days – by adding a pinch of a certain ground flower into his/her sukumawiki … I’m told it’s 100%  effective and untraceable…

I might be pissed off with my MP, and at times I do wish they would “disappear” but I’m  not a cold blooded killer

Here’s a better idea, you could write to your MP and complain complement him or her for all the achievements of  2010. i’ll warn you though, your MP might not want to hear how angry you were when they stood up for PEV suspects, defended criminalizing being gay, voted for Kenya to get out of the Rome Statute, misused CDF Funds, and bought one of Henry Koskey’s illegal cars… not to mention many other misdeeds.

I know of one MP who hides out in his home village pretending to be ill. He avoids parliament, questions and never shows up for public functions.

Well, the time of impunity is over, they can run but they can no longer hide” quoted my anonymous but very reliable source who got this list of your MP’s contact information on this website bidiiafrica.com

Make it your new years resolution to stop them from getting away with all that crap year after year.

CONTACT YOUR MP TODAY BY PHONE OR EMAIL

Abdirahman, H.Ali – Wajir South – KANU – 0721-724746 / 0722-144999 ahassan@tradeandindustry.go.ke
Chiaba, Mohamed Abu – Lamu East – PNU – 0722-410177
Bahari, Abdul Ali – Isiolo South – KANU – 0733-289501
Balala, Mohammed Najib – Mvita – ODM – 0733 333500 /0724 – 650000 najib@mombasa.co.ke
Bifwoli, Wakoli Sylvester – Bumula – PNU – 0733-865323 Wakolib@yahoo.com
Chepkitony, Lucas Kipkosgei – Keiyo North – ODM – 0733-635894 / 0722816064
Ethuro, David – Turkana Central – PNU- 0722-526370 dethuro@yahoo.com
Gesami, James Ondicho – West Mugirango – ODM- 0733 826090
Gisuka, Machage Wilfred – Kuria – DP – 0733-451806/0725834575
Kajembe, Ramathan Seif – Changamwe – ODM – 0721 609777 Langoni@swiftmombasa.com
Kajwang’, Gerald Otieno – Mbita – ODM – 0722-882787
Kamama, Asman Abongotum – Baringo East – PNU – 0731-583303
Karua, Martha Wangari Gichugu – PNU – 0721 623 342 / 0733-747551
Kenneth, Peter Gatanga – PNU – 0722 512996 andykenneth@hotmail.com
Kenyatta, Uhuru – Gatundu South – KANU – 0722 463 891
Keter, Charles Cheruiyot – Belgut – ODM – 0722 530555
Khalwale Boni – Ikolomani – NEW FORD-K – 0721 318722
Khaniri, George Munyasa – Hamisi – ODM – 0722-859341
Kilonzo, Julias Kiema Mutito – ODM-K – 0722-513605 kilonzo@wananchi.com
Kilonzo, Charles Mutavi – Yatta – ODM-K – 0734-621593 ckilonzo@crystalvaluers.com
Kimunya Amos Muhinga Kipipiri PNU – 0722518801 / 520936 kipipiri@wananchi.com
Kinyanjui, Lee Maiyani – Nakuru Town – PNU – 0722 842653
Kiunjuri, Festus Mwangi – Laikipia East – PNU – 0721 600 305
Kuti Mohammed Abdi – Isiolo North – NARC-K – 0733 235914
Lesirma, Simeon Saimanga – Samburu West – ODM – 0722-719946 simeonlesrima@yahoo.com
Magara – James Omingo – South Mugirango – ODM – 0722 911274 jomingo45@yahoo.com
Katoo, Ole Metito J – Kajiado South – 0721-640175
Midiwo, Washington Jakoyo – Gem – ODM – 0721 504 040 / 0733 421277/ 0722 935761
Mohamed, A.H.M – Mandera West – ODM – 0722-779942
Mohammed, Haji Yusuf – Ijara – KANU – 0722-709395
Mugo, Beth Wambui – Dagoretti – PNU – 0722-205753 bmugo@kenyaweb.com
Mungatana, Danson Buya – Garsen – NARC-K – 0722-411971 mungatana@wanainchi.com
Munyes, John Kiyonga – Turkana North – PNU – 0721-339094 johnmunyes@yahoo.com
Murungi, Kiraitu – South Imenti – PNU – 0721-240863 waziri@kenyaweb.com
Musila, David – Mwingi South – ODM-K – 0722 571117 davidmusila@yahoo.com
Musyoka, Stephen Kalonzo – Mwingi North – ODM-K – 0722 523 872 / 0735 161 588
Mwangi, Onesmus Kigumo – PNU – 0722-778581 kiharamwangimp@yahoo.com
Mwatela, Andrew Calist – Mwatate – ODM 0733 719 871
Mwiria, Valerian Kilemi – Tigania West – PNU – 0733-657562 kilemimwiria@africanonline.co.ke
Ndambuki, Gideon Musyoka – Kaiti – ODM-K – 0720-384553/0734-758567 gndambuki@wananchi.com
Githae, Robinson Njeru – Ndia – PNU – 722514837
Nkaisserry, Joseph Kasaine – Kajiado Central – ODM – 0721-356786 nkaisserry@wananchi.com
Nyong’o, Peter Anyang’ – Kisumu Rural – ODM – 0733 454 133 pan@africaonline.co.ke
Odinga, Raila Amolo – Langata – ODM – 0733 620 736 railaaodinga@yahoo.com
Oginga, Oburu Bondo – ODM – 0733 818517/ 0724-105493 oburu_oginga@yahoo.com
Odeke, Sospeter Ojaamongson Amagoro – ODM – 0733 967345 / 0722 813819
Ojode, Joshua Orwa Ndhiwa – ODM – 0722- 514830 Ojode7@hotmail.com
Okemo, Chrysanthus Nambale – ODM – 0733-608895 Chrisokemo@yahoo.com
Olweny, Patrick Ayiecho – Muhoroni – ODM – 0722-734187/0733-784633
Onyancha, Charles – Bonchari – ODM – 0722-248190 jonyancha2002@yahoo.com
Oparanya, Wycliffe Ambetsa – Butere – ODM – 0722 521856
Osebe, Walter Enock Nyambati – Kitutu Masaba – N LP – 0722 724 556
Poghisio, Samuel Losuron Kacheliba – ODM-K – 0722-520663 / 0734-200836 poghisio@wananchi.com
Ruto, Samoei William K. – Eldoret North – ODM – 0722 517 997 info@williamrutto.com
Shaban Naomi Namsi Taveta KANU 0722 814 412
Shitanda, Peter Soita – Malava – NEW FORD-K – 0721-341241 soita-shitanda@yahoo.com
Sugow Ahmed Aden Fafi KANU 0721-596726
Twaha, Yasin Fahim – Lamu West – NARC-K – 0722-925108
Wekesa, Noah Muhlanganga – Kwanza – PNU – 0722-774374 noahwekesa@hotmail.com
Were, David Aoko Matungu – ODM – 0722 707548/0733 569180 scorpionwere@yahoo.com
Wetangula – Moses Makisa Sirisia – PNU – 0722 517 302 / 806 363 mwetangula@hotmail.com
ATTORNEY GENERAL OF KENYA
Amos Wako 0722 772 453

This is the Phone numbers for the MP for Baringo North
Name: Hon William Kipkiror Cheptumo, LLB, MP, Assistant Minister for Ministry of Justice & National Cohesion
Tel numbers 0711696756; 0722716103.
Thanks have a good day

Elizabeth Ongoro (Kasarani) – 0723870741,0722897529

Mathioya’s Mp Mobile
0725 740830

Henry Kosgey – 0722 759877

Kangundo MP Johnstone muthama, His number is 0733900300

Kitui South MP. Isaac Mulatya Muoki 0722 295903.

Musalia Mudavadi -0722527614

Uhuru Kenyatta – 0722463891

MP for Nyeri Town constituency and MInister for Gender and Children Affairs – Esther Murugi Mathenge: 0722932794 esthermurugi@yahoo.com

Fred Outa’s (MP Nyando) no. is 0722818983

 

Godfrey Majiwa’s (Nairobi Mayor) is 0722309236

Cllr Lule (Mbotela) in Makadara constituency 0724901445

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January 6, 2011 Posted by | Constitution, corruption, Crime, politics, Presidents | 7 Comments

Review of Kikulacho – the Bite Within by A24

“First they Ignore you, then they laugh at you, then they fight you, then you win” Kikulacho – the Bite Within.

I had the pleasure of attending the premier of Kikulacho at the West Gate Mall on Tuesday with a very mixed group of Kenyans and non Kenyans… big people like Jeff Koinange, Jashpal Ghai, Richard Leakey, and several Ambassadors.

While still downstairs, the film was introduced by Transparency International’s Richard Leakey and A24 Media’s Director Salim Amin who is the son of Mohammed Amin. We could hardly hear the speeches but before we they let us into the auditorium with popcorn and a free soda, they left us with a bizarre  warning

“Do not enjoy this film”.

An hour later I understood but felt they had understated things. They should have warned us that the film would assault our senses, shock us, depress us and leave us without an answer. I came out totally shell shocked. It’s a horror film, the horrors of what we have done to the place we call home, our beloved country, Kenya.

It starts like an old fashioned movie about an Indian family in Parklands in Nairobi. They are waking up and getting ready for the day, the handsome man is shaving, listens to the radio while his kids are finishing homework. The diligent wife in flowery vintage dress is pouring tea for breakfast. She asks what’s on the news – he says something forgettable about the land issue ..then kisses her goodbye and leaves for work. As he drives off in his ancient Volkswagen Bug a man steps out from the bushes and guns him down – right there, infront of you.

The haunting sound of his daughter screeching will stay with you for the rest of the film.

The shock of that first scene wakes you up with a start, and makes you sit up. Kikulacho reminds us that Pio Pinto, an Asian was Kenya’s first political assassination. The film takes  us backwards and forwards in history assassinations, land grabbing, British, Moi, Kibaki, Kenyatta, – this kind of to and fro is exactly what’s been happening to us. So much has happened, we are so confused, we are being confused, and we are repeating mistakes. No, not mistakes, we are repeating crimes.

Ever since Kenyatta, we have let our politicians pull the wool over our eyes, blaming the colonials for all the woes of Kenya. We forget that we are the employers of these politicians and that the power is in our hands to change things.

Kikulacho – the Bite Within, examines how corrupt systems and policies have impacted everyone in Kenya, including the common people. It reveals how we have been manipulated, cheated and coopted into corruption.

A24 Media says that it is also a story of hope and triumph that aims to look at how our institutions and leadership can be shaped by the people themselves to realize their dreams.

That message must have gone over my head. I felt angry, very angry, depressed and shaken by the end of the film. I filled a questionnaire afterwards, but the truth is I had not digested what the film was conveying. It is so jam packed with information, images, truths and  horrors, it’s the kind of film you have to watch in parts, digest, discuss, and repeat over and over to really appreciate the value of the work that has gone into the production. This film forces us to confront our demons, it’s harsh, really harsh.

Like Kenya, Kikulacho is not a polished production – it’s raw and in your face.  A24 Media did a superb job of using historical archives, and interviews with people from across the country. It made me proud to hear the voices of so many intelligent Kenyans, and yet very angry that despite our human potential and moral values, our leaders have used policies and constitutions to destroy the moral fiber of Kenya. To divide and ruin us as a people and a nation.

Kikulacho reveals the gigantic elephant into the room that nobody has been talking about with regards to the new proposed constitution – the question of land, how land abuse started under the British and was perpetuated under Kenyatta, Moi and Kibaki. How land has been used to further political aims, and anyone suggesting that the land problem would lead to a crisis, was dealt with using bullets.

This film needs to be shown across the country in every bar, club, home, shop, movie theater, and on every channel. I suggested it should even be serialized on mobile phones, put on Youtube and played in open spaces. It was made just in time for the country’s referendum on whether to adopt a new constitution (August 4th 2010).  Kikulacho does not take sides on the referendum, but it will make Kenyans think carefully about their decision. I’ve heard people say “I haven’t read the proposed constitution but my MP has, I trust him” or “I’m going with what my church leader says”. I always ask why? Do you think these people are more intelligent than you? Do you really think you are that dumb? It always gets shocked stares and the response “I’m not stupid!” … but we are. When you watch Kikulacho you will realize that we all are very stupid for continuing to elect, trust and then question our corrupt leaders.  I am especially stupid, I have been so disappointed with politics in Kenya that I didn’t even bother to register.  After watching Kikulacho I absolutely want to vote.

At the end of the film TI aired a short piece of school children answering the question about corruption starting with “what is corruption?”. I thought that this short piece detracted from the main feature but many of the viewers commented that hearing the intelligence and the innocence of these children was humbling. Actually it was embarrassing – one child said ”I’m corrupt because I got my friend the prefect not to write my name down for making noise in class”.  How many Kenyans give bribes to police and government officials to get things done or to get out of trouble, but do not consider themselves to be corrupt? Kikulacho – the Bite Within is biting me all the time. I can’t stop thinking about it.

After the film US Ambassador  Michael Rannenberger was supposed to give a speach but he didn’t make it due to a delayed flight.  It didn’t matter we were all, milling about in a state of shock. Nothing he could have said would have added to the power of the film. I made a donation to the David Munyakei Fund – remember David, the famous Goldenberg whistleblower who died without dignity because of us!

Watch the film and send your comments to 0717666013 and go to their facebook http://www.facebook.com/kikulacho or join their fan page here http://www.facebook.com/Kikulacho?ref=ts&v=wall and get involve din the conversation.

You can watch the preview of Kikulacho here. The preview plays fine but website seems to be still in construction because none of the other links worked like meet thee makers.

July 15, 2010 Posted by | Constitution, corruption, Crime, Injustice, Kenya | , , , , , , , , , , | 7 Comments

Bridges Academy: reinventing education in Kenya – a response to Friedman

Josh Friedman correctly notes that Kenya needs new ideas for education in Kenya in his  PopTech blog article titled Reinventing Education in Kenya, he writes

“A new venture called Bridge International Academies is reinventing the model for education in Kenya by taking a page from franchise-based corporations”.


As a Kenyan I read this article thinking it would be a mind shift, something innovative, different, exciting. But all I felt was my temperature rising. What the Bridge Academy is doing is not really new, but sounds actually like more of the same – hundreds of NGO’s, companies, churches, mosques and other groups are already in the business of low cost schooling for poor Kenyans.

Friedman touts the Bridges System as new and innovative, and the answer to the crisis facing Kenya’s education system.

To avert corruption payments are made through M-Pesa or to a bank – nothing new there I can tell you. Visiting Lamu last weekend, every mosque school had such a system in place. Many schools around the country do.

The school is affordable for  parents – yes but so are all cheap schools in christian missions, churches, mosques, companies.

The school system comes in a box – well that’s only about administration, the curriculum is the national curriculum – nothing new about education there.

It’s not free therefore it’ll give a better education – what?

First, the idea of free primary school education is not a bad idea.  Friedman suggests it has led to “doubtful education results”. I’m sorry but I don’t agree. For the first time in history, every Kenyan child was in school. If results were so doubtful then why are Kenyan parents up in arms about the fraud by the Ministry and withdrawal of donor funding? Because their kids will lose out on education. A massive burden was lifted from parents and while it wasn’t always perfect, every single child had a place, even a 96 year old Mzee Kimani enrolled in class 1. Free education in Kenya gave many of us  me hope. Read this blog post called “Age is nothing but a number” by By Elijah Dianga, Student,  Kisumu Day High School In Kenya and you will undestand why.

Mzee Kimani was able to go to school because it was free.  He said “I have waited more than 80 years to go to school. Then, last year, Kenya introduced free primary education and I knew it was my only chance. At first, the school refused. But once I decided to come, no one was going to stop me.”

The Bridges Academy will not replace free schools. It will however compete with other cheap schools which are also a great idea for Kenyan familes, but it won’t help those that need free education. There are millions of Kenyans who will not afford even the low prices at the Bridges Academies, especially where the average family comprises 4 – 6 children, often plus orphaned relatives.

What gets me about Friedmans article is that he suggests that the fraud in the Kenyan education system is the reason why we need to reinvent education in Kenya by creating cheap schools. I disagree. First it was not the concept of free education that was a bad idea, it was the way that the funding was handled that was a bad idea. And the international donors (UK, USA, Sweden and others) only paid for 5% of the total free education budget.

That  the funding for free education has been abused is hardly surprising.  This is Kenya after all, the land of impunity. I hate it to the core and I would never put money into a corrupt institution. Only an idiot would because it’s  like pouring water into a bucket full of holes. So, what on earth were the donors thinking when they poured money into an already corrupt school system? Why did they do this instead of reforming the education sector? If you ask me, they actually sabotaged their own work, and they must have known this from the get go. With due respect for Michael Rannenberger, he has not always stood up for doing things the right way and American money for the education program was not improving education but building classrooms probably because they look good and you can plant a whopping huge sign outside to remind everyone that USA built this. Go to Manda Island in Lamu where you’d have to be blind to miss the sign about he US funded rehabilitation of Manda Island school as you leave the airport…it’s got less to do with need, and everything to do with trying to look good in a place where the presence of an American Marine base is not all that welcome …(no such thing as a free lunch).

According to Friedman, one of the innovations of the Bridges Schools is that they are low cost, and yet they are still “for profit”.

Ok, lets look at the math. It costs 295 Kenyan shillings a month to send a child to a Bridge school. Thats around $4. Sounds like nothing! The school in the article has an enrollment of 119 students.  That’s Ksh 35,000 (US$500) per month to run the school. That’s a budget of less than Ksh 5,000 (US $ 80) per class per month  (there are 8 classes in primary school).  Children don’t wear uniforms and that the learning materials are simple, classrooms are stark, students sit on benches not desks. Ok it’s clearly low cost, but how on earth can$80 a month pay a good trained teacher, and keep him or her motivated, plus pay for materials, training, power, water etc. Maybe my math is up the spout,  I would love to see how a school can be run at these price, turn a profit, AND provide quality education.

Finally, I’m a bit tired of foreign imports to replace rather than fix existing infrastructure. The Bridge school system, private schools in a box, nice idea, but it’s another import that still depends on donor funding. There are hundreds if not thousands of good private schools, religious schools and donor funded schools in Kenya. They all cost something and perhaps there is a need for more low cost schools. But make no mistake, the Bridges Academy is not for free, therefore it cannot replace the free government system which caters for many millions of Kenyan.

In my view what we need is not another new foreign import, but support to conduct a total overhaul of the government system, to root out the corruption and provide the quality education that Kenyan children deserve. Parents want it, children want it…why don’t the donors want it?

Like all African countries, Kenya is inundated with well wishers trying to save the people from a greedy, murdering, inept and outright illegal government. We keep bypassing the government systems, when in fact, what we probably need to do is to work on fixing these structures and make them work properly. Otherwise we keep going around and around chasing our own tails. I’m not saying I have a solution  in hand, but there have been some much more exciting proposals made that are far more innovative than the Bridges School Academy in a metal box. Why not create internet based school systems that allow children (and adults) to learn the curriculum at their own pace and time and still work if they have to? Those Kenyan born ideas however, are unlikely to attract the mega funding of donors like the Omidyar Foundation. Like many of Americas biggest private donors, you’d need to be American to get that support.

Instead of funding a completely new set of  schools that may or may not work, perhaps donors like the Omidyars should consider paying for children in impoverished areas to go to already established and proven schools in the country.

Having said that, I genuinely  wish the Bridges Academy well, I hope that they can sustain these schools but I take issue with Friedman suggesting that these schools are reinventing education in Kenya. Kenyans need to reinvent education in this country, fix the curriculum, root out corruption, pay teachers appropriately, and get quality education to every single child. Only then will the changes stick.

What do you think?

January 31, 2010 Posted by | corruption, Crime, education | , , | 10 Comments

Not just in Kenya. Corruption = Power + Hypocrisy

If you are wondering how Tony Blair sleeps at night after admitting that he lied and lied again about Iraq and still insists he did the right thing, wonder no more, the answer is Hypocrisy.

In a current article in the Economist (Jan 23 2010) titled “The Psychology of Power: Absolutely” we learn that power corrupts but only those who think they deserve it.

A series of rather clever experiments asked university students to imagine a time when they were in a position of high or low power, and to then make decisions about morality. They rated on a morality scale of 1 – 9 how immoral it was to over report travel expenses at work. The findings are a revelation. Those who imagined they had high power, thought it was not all that immoral, while those in the low power group found it morally objectionable to over report travel expenses.

Another group played a dice power game and had to volunteer their score, a value between 1 and 100. Those High Power volunteeres claimed to have rolled 70 on average, clearly lying – the statistical average is of course 50! The low power group reported an average of 59 …they too cheated but just a bit in comparison. The study goes on to explore how power corrupts those who feel they deserve power. These results are very relevant to people we know quite well, Tony Blair, George Bush, Robert Mugabe, Daniel, Gideon and other Mois, Emilio, Jimmy, Lucy and other Kibaki’s, Uhuru, Muhoho and other Kenyattas as well as the likes of Raila and other Odingas. People who believe they were born privelaged.

The scientsists from Tilburg University in Holland report that the culture of entitlement is the basis for much of the corruption we see in the world today. The students in the experiment who reported that they were entitled to power, were complete and total hypocrits and were very likely to abuse power and forgive those who also abuse power. Sound a little like Tony Blair and the Iraq affair, Kibaki and the election crisis, Moi and the Mau, Mugage and his cronies land grabbing?

And what’s interesting is that those students who felt they were not entiteld to power were much more likely to adhere to the law and judged those who failed to do so harshly. But when transgressions were made, they judged themselves more harshly than others. They are labelled hypercrits – they judge themselves even more harshely than others.

The article suggests that these people are in general quite submissive. Perhaps this is why the whistle blowers of Kenya always disappear into thin air. I mean what ever happened to John Githongo, Maina Kiai, Wangari Maathai, Gladwell Otieno, and others?

It may also reveal why we can’t elect good honest people to parliament, they simply aren’t ‘macho’ enough. Is this why we always support crops of thieving murdering pathological liars to our leadership? I mean how does the sewer rat Cyrus Jirongo keep popping up? I personally wonder if corrupt behaviour innate or is learned – I mean did Jimmy learn from Emilio? Did Gideon get his talents from Daddy?, and Uhuru – is he a chip off the old shoulder, like George Bush Jnr?  I suspect that the scientists are right and if so we’re so totally screwed because democracy cannot then work. What we need is dictatorship by honest wimps.

January 30, 2010 Posted by | corruption, Crime, Injustice, Kenya | , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Kenya Police Hotlines

These are police posts numbers in Alphabetical Order Nairobi lines are in bold. My source is Kenya police website

If you need to report a crime you might want to read my blog post on navigating the Kenya police procedures here, or if it is not urgent you can also report a crime online  here

Adungosi Police Station 055-22419
Ahero Police Station 057-821008
Amagoro OCPD 055-54409
Arror Police Station 053-22286

Bahati Police Station 051-52299
Bamburi Police Station 041-5485316
Baricho Police Station 060-21732

Baringo OCPD Office 053-22227
Bondo OCPD’s Office 057-52009
Bookers OCPP 056-641020
Bungoma Hotline 055-30555
Bura Police Station 046-62229
Burubru 020-787404
Buruburu 020-787038
Buruburu OCPD  020-783584
Buruburu Police Station 020-786878

Busia Hotline 055-22133
Butere OCPD Office 056-620222
Butere Police Station 056-620004

Capital Hill Post 020-2721692
Central PPO Office 061-2030885
Changamwe Police Station  041-433700
Cherangani Police Station 054-30034

Chesikaki Police Station Chesikaki 25
Chuka Police Station 064-630002

Diani Police Station 040-2229
Eldoret Police Station  053-2032900
Elementaita Police Post 050-2030026
Elwark Police Station 046-4151000
Embakasi OCPD 020-823200
Embu Hotline 068-30100
Funyula Police Station 055-63209

Garbatulla Police Station 064-20682
Garissa Hotline 046-2000
Gatundu Police Station 067-74212
Gilgil Police Station 050-4228
Githumu Police Station 060-44132
Githunguri Police Station 066-65009
Griftu Police Station Griftu 2

Gucha OCPD Office 058-30394

Hardy Police Station 020-891225
Hola Police Station Hola 046-62004
Homa Bay Hotline 059-22444

Homabay OCPD Office 059-22258

Igoji Police Post 064-22432

Ijara OCPD Office 046-62006
Ijara Police 046-62440

Jamhuri Police Post 020-565621
Jogoo Police Station 020-557766

Jogoo Police Station 020-557632/557959
Juja Police Station 067-52176

Kabati Police Station 060-72223
Kabete 020-632222
Kabras Police Station  Malaba 9
Kahawa Sukari 067-812099
Kahuro Police Station 060-41002
Kakamega OCPD Office 056-31486
Kanangop Police Station 065-35015

Kandara Police Station 060-44419
Kangema Police Station  060-322002

Kaptembwa Police Station 051-213228

Kapsokwony Police Station 054-21400
Kapsowar Police Station 053-361507

Kaptagat Police Station 053-2033675
Karatina Police Station 061-72222
Karen Police Station 020-882538

Kariene Police Station 064-51435
Karuri Police Station 066-41222

Kasarani Police Station 020-8563222

Kasarani DCIO 020-8564335
Kasarani OCPD 020-8560756
Kasarani Police Station 020-8564310

Keiyo Hotline 053-42666
Keiyo OCPD Office 053-42088
Kenyatta Police Post 020-2724614
Kericho OCPD Office 052- 30658

Kericho POLICE Station 052- 20222

Keroka Police Station 058-520064
Kiambu Hotline066-22111
Kianyaga Police Station 060-751002
Kibwezi Police Station 044-350002
Kiganjo Police Station 062-86022
Kigumo Police Station 060-44409
Kigumo Police Station Hse 060-44503
Kiirua Police Station 064-41002

Kijabe Police Station 066-64480

Kijipwa Police Station 041-32211

Kikuyu Police Station 066-32022

Kileleshwa 020-560533

Kilgoris 058-5122009

Kilifi OCPD Office 041-522368

Kilimani D/OCPD 020-2728885

Kilimani OCPD 020-2710392

Kilimani Police Station 020-2721683

Kilome Police Station 044-322280

Kilome Police Station 044-322002

Kimende Patrol Base 066-64014

Kimilili Police Station 055-21018

Kiminini Police Station 055-44044

Kinango Police Station Kinango 15

Kipipiri Police Station065-72435

Kipkabus OCPP 053-720464

Kiriani Police Post 060-51096

Kirinyaga OCPD Office 060-21266

Kisumu OCPD’s Office 057-23594

Kitale Hotline 054-30777

Kitui OCPD Office 044-22055

Koru Police Station 057-51478

Kuria OCPD’s 057-52853

Kwale OCPD Office 040-4075

Kwhisero OCPP 056-620227

Kyuso Police Station Kyuso 3

Lamu OCPD Office 042-633120

Lanet Police Station 051-850043

Langata OCPD 020-603694

Lari Police Station 066-74235

Likoni Police Station 041-451222

Lolgorian Police Station 051-23237

Luanda Police Station 054-251087

Lugari OCPD Office 053-53333

Lugari OCPP 053-2031015

Lungalunga Lungalunga 15

Lwala Police Station 057-520485

Madogo Police Station 046-2372

Magumu Police Post 065-32916

Makongeni 020-558277

Makueni Hotline 044-33000

Makupa Police Station  041-491605

Malaba Police Station 055-54038

Malakisi Police Station 055-30507

Malindi Hotline 042-31555

Malindi OCPD Office 042-31348

Malindi Police Station 042-20486

Mandera OCPD Office 046-52003

Maragua Hotline 060-313339

Maragua OCPD Office 060-64026

Maragua Police Station 060-42002

Marakwet Hotline 053-361500

Marakwet OCPD Office 053-5122086

Mariakani Police Station 041-33004

Marigat Police Station 053-51007

Masalani 046-62013

Mathare 020-3764118

Mathare 020-3762698

Matunda Police Station 053-72172

Maua Police Station 064-21022

Mbaraki Depot 041-316168

Mbooni Police Station Mbooni 22

Menengai Police Station 051-343333

Merti Police Station Merti 2

Meru Central Hotline 064-31222

Meru North OCPD Office 064-21127

Meru South OCPD Office 064-630017

Migwani Police Station044-822464

Mikinduri Police Station Mikinduri88

Milangine Police Station Milangine 22

Modogashe Police Station 046-3054

Moi’s Bridge Police Station 054-72006

Molo OCPD Office 051-5122086

Mombasa Central Police Station  041-225501

Mombasa Headquaters 041-222121

Mombasa Urban OCPD Office 041-230706

Moyale Police Station 069-2014

Msambweni Police Station 040-52002

Mt Elgon OCPD Office 054-21843

Mtitu Andei Police Station 044-30507

Mukurwe-Ini Police Station 061-60028

Mumias Police Station 056-641010

Muranga Hotline 060-31188

Muthaiga Police Station 020-3762611

Mweiga Police Station 061-55002

Mwingi OCPD Office044-822196

Mwingi Pabx 044-822032

Mwingi Police Station 044-822146

Nairobi Central OCPD 020-220117

Nairobi Central Police Station 020-225685

Nairobi Industrial Area 020-557284

Naivasha 050-2030025

Naivasha OCPD Office 050-2020288

Nakuru Hotline 051-2217417

Nakuru Hotline051-40000

Nakuru Hotline051-30666

Nakuru Police Station 051-2216597

Narok OCPD Office 050-22127

Narok Police Station 050-22201

Naromoru Police Station061-62003

Nchiru Police Station 064-66409

Ndaragwa Police Station065-32078

Ndaragwa Police Station065-32280

Ngomongo 020-803340

Ngubi Patrol Base066-41582

Njabini Police Station 065-32459

Njoro Police Station 051-61106

Nkubu Police Station064-51002

Ntumu Police Station 064-22063

Nyahururu Police Station 065-22052

Nyahururu Police Station065-22722

Nyali Police Station 041-477555

Nyamira Hotline058-6144488

Nyamira OCPD 058-6144035

Nyamira Police Station 058-6144029

Nyandarua Hotline065-32555

Nyando OCPD 057-821167

Nyeri Hotline 061-2030555

Ol Joro Orok Police Station 065-22919

Ol Kalou Police Station 065-72003

Othaya Police Station 061-52004

Oyugis Police Station 059-31035

Pangani Police Station 020-6760142

Pap Onditi Police Station  Pap Onditi 9

Parklands Police Station 020-3742238

Parklands Police Station 020-3746115

Port Victoria Police 055-63409

Rachuonyo Hotline059-31200

Rachuonyo OCPD’s Office 059-31284

Rhamu Police Station 046-52454

Riruta Pol.Station 020-560921

Ruiru Police Station 067-54260

Runyenjes PoliceStation 068-62002

Rweno Police Post 066-60092

Saba Saba Police Post 060-42463

Sagana Police Station 060-46002

Salama Police Station 044-322469

Serem Police Station 054-41565

Sericho Police Station 064-3502

Shauri Moyo 020-652124

Shauri Moyo 020-652125

Siaya 057-321078

Siaya D/OCPD 057-321080

Siaya Hotline 057-321666

Siaya OCPD’s Office 057-321077

Solai Police Station 051-52492

Sololo Police Station Sololo 2

Spring Valley 020-4181245

Subukia Police Station 051-52024

Sultan Hamud Police Station 044-52001 T

Taita Taveta OCPD Office 043-30303

Taita Taveta Police Station 043-5352224

Tambach Police Station 053-42450

Tana OCPD Office046-62083

Taru 040-2502

Taveta Police Station 043-5352222

Teso Hotline055-54444

Thika Hotline 067-31000

Thika Police Station 067-31652

Thika Police Station 067-21074

Thindigua Patrol Base 066-513366

Tigania Police Station 064-66255

Tigoni Police Station 066-73222

Timau Police Station 064-41002

Tot Police Station 053-21069

Trans-Mara OCPD 053-2345

Turbo Police Station 053-53007

Ukwala Police Station 057-34409

Vihiga OCPD Office 054-51193

Voi Police Station 043-31220

Wajir OCPD Office 046-421505

Wajir Police Station 046-421196

Wanguru PoliceStation 060-48002

Watamu Police Station 042-32286

Webuye Police Station 055-41044

Wundanyi Police Station 043-42002

Yala Police Station 057-335235

November 27, 2009 Posted by | Crime, Injustice, Kenya, police | 4 Comments

How to report crime in Kenya or navigating Police procedures

FIRST I HAVE TO GRIPE- WHY ISN’T THERE AN ONLINE SUPPORT SERVICE FOR VICTIMS  OF DOMESTIC ABUSE?

I don’t know how Kenya can say it is serious about dealing with the vice when its the no. 1 crime affecting over 80% of women, yet it’s virtually impossible to find out where to get help, or how to report an incident of domestic abuse.

Here’s what I know about what to do- let me know what you think as I’d love to  produce a poster and plaster a checklist on every single police station in Kenya

1. CALL THE POLICE 999 (landline) 112 (Cell)

You can try to call the police Kenya Police emergency no is 999 (landline) or 112 (mobile phone).

PUT THESE NUMBERS IN YOUR CELL NOW

You can also try your local station – Kenya Police Stations Hotlines are listed here

2. REPORT AT NEAREST POLICE STATION OR SUB STATION/COMMUNITY STATION

When you get there tell them you want to report a crime.

I’ve no idea if the Gender Desk or Childrens Desks actually work but generally you go to the one guy who has the OB or Observation Book. He gives your case a number, asks you a few questions and you should keep a receipt of that report.

The officer taking your report will not volunteer information – you have to ask. These guys are qualified but if you are confused ask to see the OCS (Officer in Charge of Station – who generally is quite professional)

Well if you’ve been injured you need a P3 form from the Police station – you can download P3 Forms and Abstract Forms from the Police website here in advance

LOSS OF PROPERTY

Note The Abstract form is issued by the Police whenever a person reports loss of property.

It is filled giving details of the lost property. The Officer Commanding Police Station(OCS), must sign and rubber-stamp the filled form and an official receipt issued.

NB. Once this form is filled,it must be taken to the nearest Police Station for necessary assistance.

IN THE CASE OF PERSONAL INJURY

You must get the P3 Form the Medical Examination Report

The Kenya Police Medical Examination form, popularly known as P3, is provided free of charge at our police stations. It is used to request for medical examination by a Medical Officer of Health, in order to determine the nature and extent of bodily injury sustained by a complainant(s) in assault cases.

Part I of the form must be filled by the Police Officer requesting medical examination.

Part II must befilled by a Medical Officer or Practitioner carrying out the examination giving medical details.

Section B of this form should be completed in all cases of assault, including sexual while section C is completed in cases alleged sexual offeces ony.

This form is a government document and must be returned to the police for use in adducing evidence in court.

Once the P3 form is filled in at the police station, the complainant is escorted by a police officer to a medical officer or practitioner for examination.

The form becomes an exhibit once produced in court.

MAKE A STATEMENT

Accompanying your initial Abstract should be a full statement from you of what happened. This can be done later the same day or next day AT THE POLICE STATION

Any abuse, injury or damage to property is a criminal case. It is different from a civil case (but you can also pursue a civil case in parallel – I’m not  a lawyer but would appreciate guidance on this).

If you need someone to be arrested you must tell the police immediately. Kenyan law classifies any assault, injury or damage to property as violation of the penal code.

The police will arrest the offender and charge them, hold them til processed (finger prints etc), set a bail if it’s a bailable offense, is and give them a date in court usually within 2 weeks. From what I’ve been told, the Government prosecutor will take charge in criminal cases. Ie. the Victim is represented by Govt Prosecutor. The person charged gets to plead, after which there’s a mention then a hearing.

Having someone charged for domestic abuse is a process and no wonder most women drop or don’t bother to even report domestic abuse cases.

(BTW I think we have a domestic abuse law in Kenya – it’s either assault or some other crime.)

And intoxication shall not constitute a defence to any criminal charge. Women or men who charge their spouses with domestic violence are actually charging them with Assault and there’s a 5 year jail sentence for that.

Most men know that women will not go so far as reporting the case – but the truth is that once it’s reported you can drop it if you decide. If you don’t you have nothing but the possibility of further assault.

Wouldn’t it be easier to just walk away?

NO!!!

Forgetting about what it does to us, me, you or any victim, to our bodies,  just think for a moment about what it does to our minds, our spirit and how it messes up our children, sisters, parents, friends for life to see us take the beatings.

Why you should report spouse abuse

  • Having the incident on record in case it happens again in future
  • You can use the case to leverage a mediated approach in exchange for dropping criminal charges which carry hefty penalties.
  • Reduced probability of further abuses – Men don’t like having a record
  • Doing what’s right for you and your kids/dependents family friends etc.

Disadvantages of reporting a spouse abuse case

  • Dealing with the Police can be time consuming – these guys are experts in the runaround (most women drop cases which might explain why the police don’t take them seriously in the first place)
  • Responsibility if the abuser goes to jail (most women are too kind to mean men)
  • Ending a relationship most people end relationships once it’s gotten so bad that police are involved. Some think it’s better to deal with problems before they become violent. You can get help and counseling (see below)
  • Your case can become publicsome people and especially relatives find this embarrassing and shameful

The Center for Gender Violence at Nairobi Womens Hospital in Hurlingham

Kenyatta Hospital

Nairobi Place – for counseling and treatment of alcoholism and other substance abuse addictions

For men who are abused or who can’t get access to traditional help the SAFE website may provide options

For women, children and men – we need a site like Narika in Asia which is a volunteer run a help line that one can can call to find out what to do, get counseling, access information like where’s the closest shelter, share stories and generally get help.

You can download most Kenyan laws here

If you have any relevant resources to share leave a comment or tweet me @paulakahumbu


November 26, 2009 Posted by | Crime, gender violence, Injustice, Kenya, rape, Relationships, spouse abuse, Women | , , , , , , , , | 5 Comments

Breaking the cycle of Violence against Women

After writing about Charlie and Anne and responding to a number of comments on Twitter, Facebook and  here I discovered that this story is not that uncommon.

This video states that 90% of Kenyan women are abused from childhood – and 60 % are in abusive marriages/relationships.

Seeing the burned victim of domestic abuse will stay tattooed in my brain forever.

United Nations Development Fund for Women (UNIFEM) launched the global advocacy initiative Say NO – UNiTE to End Violence against Women, which will stimulate, count and showcase actions on ending violence against women. The innovative platform will spotlight global efforts and demonstrate the groundswell of support and actions on the issue.

I’ve taken on action to end violence againsg women – by simply being there for my friend Anne to deal with her abusive partner and of course writing this blog.  I’ve recorded my action on UNiFem’s website here .

Speak out on violence against women – call into your favourite radio show, write a blog, send your friends, emails

Share resources

Spend an hour with your son, nephew, brother, father, grandfather, friend and talk about domestic violence

Support a victim of domestic violence (your grandmother, mother, sister, lover, friend, aunt, niece)

Talk to the abuser – help him realise it’s just not acceptable

If you have ever been an abuser – call your victim and apologise from the depths of your heart and promise to never ever ever do it again. Get help if you haven’t already.

Share the commitment you have made on UNiFEM website – it’ll only take a few moments.

I can’t find a single web based resource that women in Kenya can turn to to tell them what their rights are, and what actions to take in the event of abuse. Any help would be much appreciated. Once we have it we need to share it through mobile phone. Maybe we can save some of these women.

The Coalition on Violence Against Women apparently provide free legal service for victims

Love your woman tomorrow it’s White Ribbon day!

– All you men out there, show your commitment to end violence against women – wear a white ribbon today and spoil your woman rotten, with a massage, breakfast in bed, a bubble bath and cook her a loving meal.

November 24, 2009 Posted by | Crime, gender violence, Injustice, Kenya, rape, Relationships, spouse abuse, Women | Leave a comment

Dealing with Kenyan Police and spouse abuse – we are hopeless

What do you do when a stranger walks into your house on a Saturday morning, unannounced at 8 am asking for a beer?

Our otherwise calm weekend was shattered….someone I barely recognized just strolled into my sitting room – it took me a moment to recognize him as a friends boyfriend.

It was not much after 9 am – he walked into, just like that , as if invited, and asked us for a beer.

For a moment Peter and I were stunned. We just stared at him. Peter for one had never even met the guy -a tall Indian dude.

I realized from the pong that this chap, lets call him Charlie, was quite drunk. I asked Peter to get him some Ribena and began wondering how we’d get rid of him. We don’t know him well enough to feel comfortable with him being around us on an otherwise intimate Saturday morning, but I know him enough to feel it was a bit too rude to simply say “F- OFF you aren’t invited”.

Dressed rather oddly for a Saturday morning it became clear that this was a Friday night turned Saturday morning. I made a comment that it had been a long night and he revealed that he’d been in a car accident, rolled his car 3 times and had walked over to us. Luckily he wasn’t hurt we all agreed.

I felt as if the pieces were falling into place …but what a perfect con.

The next ten minutes he’s bragging that he’s a trained rally driver, and that he’s a magnificent driver and at age 42 had never rolled a car, that he was in a state of complete shock, as if the car had somehow turned against him. The bashed car was at the garage – he said he’d sent a cheque of half a million to pay for the damages “no big deal he says” – does this retard think we are impressed with talk of cheques of half a million shillings? The only thought going through my head was “What an ass” how do I get rid of him?

“Does your girlfriend know?” I ask “I don’t know” he says, “my three phones were broken” (three phones my ass). “I’ll call her” I offer,

“No, don’t” he replies.

I go to make coffee detouring to my office to send her a text.

“Not sure if u r aware Charlie is here says he had an accident is traumatized, says I shouldn’t call u”

I turn on the kettle and Peter emerges “he says he broke Annes arm”

“WHAT? “

“He broke her arm”

“How? In the accident?

“No, says he got angry and threw something at her”

Now I’m totally confused and very very mad, no FURIOUS.

I call her – it’s true she’s at a local clinic. Shell shocked, she’s asking if he’s being a pain what can she do to get him out of our hair. I tell her I’m coming for her.

*?*! (deleted expletive) beats up his girl and comes over to my house for sympathy. What the *^$%?

I ask him to leave, he puts on that stupid British school boy attitude “I understand” and stands up and wobbles about. I leave Peter to get him completely out with instructions to lock all doors of the house.

We  leave, the @^% is somewhere wondering around the garden, instructions to staff – get rid of him.

Peter and I rushed off to help Anne who is at a clinic waiting in line. She is complete shock. She tells us that  he had crashed his car at about 4 am on his way to her house. He says it rolled 3 times and that the roll bar saved him and his seatbelt. She sounds thankful that he’s safe… what a poor guy traumatized and all. “The  %$#@^&&%%$#  has broken her arm” my head screams!

He told us that he was playing with the steering wheel when the car lost control. I can’t even bring myself to do a Duh! He told her that after the accident a crowd gathered at the scene and someone called a tow truck. He gets the crumpled vehicle towed to her house at 5.30 am. Calls her, she opens up and is sympathetic to his accident, but he drinks some more (he was already completely drunk) then gets angry accuses her for causing the accident (because she didn’t go out with him the night before – THANK GOD

She says he goes into a wild rage, starts breaking things and throwing things around including a full jar of Tahini that hit her on the elbow causing quite some considerable damage. I look at it – her elbow is totally deformed with the swelling, it’s turning blue.

The clinician refers her to a major hospital for an x-ray and we agree to take her immediately. As we were driving she gets a phone call from her house keeper. She listens silently then tells us that the *^&%  has come back and has broken all the windows.

The she breaks down into a pool of tears. We stop the car and I advise her to go straight to the police.

She agrees and we ask the police to arrest him – we know he’s still around, very drunk and is on foot somewhere. He’s easy to spot. Two police officers move off on foot to “catch him”  …can’t be tough, tall skinny Asian guy in an totally African neighbourhood.

They keep calling saying they can’t find him and keep asking for descriptions – this is silly, we know he’s around – there’s only one road  – he’s on it somewhere. A lady drives up to the police station – she tells us she gave a tall Asian a lift to a bar across the way, and that immediately after she dropped him two police ask her for a lift  – they tell her that they are looking for a tall Asian. She said she took them to the bar – at the entrance someone said the Asian got on a boda boda motorbike and left. They head off in the direction the boda boda went in.

We leave the police station furious that he  has escaped but as we drive past the bar I look over only to see the ASS sitting at the very bar– he can see us.  *&%^&^%$#$#$!

We go straight to the two foot patrol men and point them at the guy – they arrest him. We proceed to hospital. It’s now lunch time.

By 5 we’re done with X-rays and are driving back home. She’s agreed to stay with us  – her house is a mess anyway.  At 6 the police want to know what to do with the fellow. Follow your procedures we say – he’s beaten her up and destroyed property. Put him in.

They say they are going to lock him in at the main station. Good.

By 8 pm and we’re at her house evaluating the damage and getting a night bag. Broken bed, broken bulbs, broken lights and a broken door. White gloss paint poured over the newly finished house. She’s in tears again. The place is a mess.

His parents call and beg Anne not to press charges, to get him out of the cell. They admit he’s done wrong but he’ll be molested, attacked, injured even killed in the cell.  She’s torn.

We ask her what she wants to do  – it’s clear. She’s a wreck, her arm is blue and three times the diameter but she doesn’t want him raped or hurt in a cell. She says he’s remorseful (My *&^%!)  I know she’ll never forgive herself, and he’ll never let her forgive herself if he has to sleep in a cell.

So we have to head back to the police station – the Officer in charge is not available. The Duty Officer does not have authority to let someone out. Well we tried, its good enough for me, let him rot in the cell.

But no, someone suggests we ask the Officer in charge of the Division – the guy is in and wants to see us. What happened next could easily be made in a movie. Kenyan policemen are thugs.

I know that spouse abuse is common in Kenya but that does not make the victims pains any less. The police responsible are doing their jobs but they could hold back the laughter and fun they are getting out of this particular situation. They speak in Swahili and poke fun knowing Anne does not understand – but their expressions reveal the fun they are making. They say they don’t understand, the guy has injured her, destroyed her property and why? Because he rolled his car and was frustrated.
“But what did YOU do to make him hit you” the OCPD asks.

She is being asked to admit that she is the reason he got mad, that she triggered something, that it’s all her fault. If its not her fault the officer says then he could come back and hurt you again tonight.

“If it’s just frustration and drink ” he reasons “Why didn’t he go home and wreck his own house – why drive across town at 5 am to break your houses?” the police man asks

It’s a Good *&^* ing question.

Part of me wants to yell at the stupid cop but what good would that do in this situation – we are all his victims now. I feel like a prey stuck in a spiders web. The spider torturing each one of us in turn. It’s taking forever, we have no  idea where his line of questioning is going.

But after an hour of the police logic I knew what I’d do,  let the *&$#  rot in the cell for the night. He could deal with his plight tomorrow – and his damn parents who claim to love him should come rescue him. Asking his victim to rescue him is obscene and totally retarded.

But I also knew that Anne wouldn’t sleep tonight if he was in a cell. She’d worry and feel extreme guilt. She’d probably punish herself somehow. The police man notices that she has mercy, he can see that she worries about him and asks why. He asks “Why didn’t he worry about you when he started attacking her and destroying her new home?”.

She knows the answer, but logic seems to be on vacation.

They bring the &^%$ out of the cell and haul him in front of us. His attitude alone made me want to instruct the police officer to throw him in with the worst offenders for the entire weekend.

Normally a strong, beautiful, lovely, loving, happy and elegant woman is reduced to a quivering puddle of tears. She can’t escape.

But Charlie, seems to me to be  enjoying this scene. I should point out that Peter didn’t agree with this evaluation and thought the guy was remorseful. It looked to me like he has a smirk on his face, like he was  actually smiling, enjoying the pain he’s brought to her, the annoyance to us and the police station. I felt like I’d seen this all before – many times, so many people. He is feeling loved that someone cares enough to make such an issue out of him, and with his status, family, connections and money he could get himself  out of any situation. What a ^*&&%$!!!

We get back into the car to leave and I try to talk to her about it, I just don’t get it. The guy is a complete and utter &*&$#. She says she knows he’s controlling, dangerous  even, he drinks too much (sorry but that’s not an excuse). She tells me she worries that he’ll come and wreck my house if she stays with me. I tell her he cannot. I remind her he hasn’t wrecked anyones house but hers, he hasn’t hurt anyone else but her. He does it because she lets him.

I give her time for that to sink in – he does it because she lets him.

She can’t see it. She says he’s sorry and remorseful – “yeah” I think “just like Kagwai  who says he’s sorry for gauging out his wifes eyes”. She was blinded for life.  He did seven years for, Anne can’t even imagine this *^$#  doing one night in a cell!

Logic is truly on vacation.

She, ’s a puddle of tears and I feel angry – double angry. Angry because she isn’t angry at the injustice, angry that she’s letting this *%&$  manipulate her. Angry that she’s making excuses for him. Angry that she can’t see – no matter what, she can’t see what I do. Actually I’m mostly angry because this is all too common in Kenya.

I tell her my own bitter spouse abuse story. Walking out was tough but it was a walk to freedom. And, I’ve never looked back. Everytime I see him with his wife I feel so grateful it’s not me. I escaped a horrible fate! 🙂

I decided that being alone, lonely, unloved and all that came with it was far far better than in an abusive relationship.

I’m also angry because after all that, we bailed the *&^# out.  After putting him in, we bailed him out. Retards.  It cost us Khs 10,000/- and an entire day of my life. He doesn’t deserve it. He probably won’t show up for court either.

She left this morning. I know she’s gone to clean up the broken glass, to remove the paint, fix the windows, anything to avoid dealing with what she needs to do to save herself.

I know I have no right but I asked her anyway, if she could imagine writing him off completely, never seeing him again.

She said she could not.

It’s a day later and I feel certain that am worried that she will drop the charges, continue seeing him in a fatal attempt to mend his broken being. He isn’t like this every day… he’s a troubled man, a spoilt boy with no boundaries…. she is convinced that he needs her. He’ll apologise, cry genuine tears, even see a counselor and shower her with gifts, take her to great places. He’ll probably even propose to her.

But he’s still the same &*(*^ . I dread what he’ll do to her next time. She knows that we will be there to pick up the pieces, …she’s too nice to do anything that will hurt him. It’s as if she’s trapped – she just can’t let go of him. He has infected her.

But maybe she can escape, she can if he lets go….

I’m not hoping, but just saying….maybe the roll cage won’t hold next time.

Post note:

Charlie and Anne are real people but these are not their real names. Over a 12 hour period I discovered what it takes to effect an arrest in Kenya for spouse abuse – its not easy and you need stoic friends to help you through. Spouse abuse happens every day but most cases never get reported because it’s a fucking drama at the police station and male policemen tend to ‘understand’ male urges. They encourage victims to ‘make up’ and withdraw cases. Victims of spouse abuse need to be strong. Know your rights, make a statement, get the P3 form, take photos of the damage and injuries, and put the &*^$#ers away for a long long time.  Oh, and turn off your phone so that his parents can’t reach you. The incident happened yesterday and as you can probably tell, I’m still fuming.  And, I know that men are also abused – either way it’s wrong. Get out of toxic relationships fast.

November 22, 2009 Posted by | Crime, Donkey | , , , , , , , , | 14 Comments